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In my previous post I said I would do some "research" into stress. And I did.
It began with a look-up in my ten pound dictionary, a Webster's published in 1989. It had 12 definitions of stress - only two of those related to anything remotely emotional, the majority being architectural in nature. Seemed to me, if stress (emotional) was popular in 1989 it would have rated more coverage.
I consulted with my Thesaurus, published in 1992. Stunning contrast. Here is a list of just a few words associated with stress: affliction, albatross, anxiety, burden, dread, fear, ferment, hardship, impatience, mistrust, nervousness, tension, oppression,
overextension, restlessness, worry. Now isn't that a lovely collection? I wonder if anyone would knowingly and willingly want any of those words anywhere near them?
Next book - Bartlett's Familiar Quotations. I was looking for the old, wise commentaries - those words of wisdom we love to quote and toss about for discussion. In the index, stress does not even stand alone but is coupled with "stress and disorientation", there were four quotes and none worth mentioning here, trust me. Point being, stress wasn't a topic discussed or written by the smart and famous.
Moving on to Goggle and what seemed to be an eternity reading all there was available on stress and the first thing I see is The American Institute of Stress. (Get OUT!) It's purpose, it says, is to advance our understanding of the role of stress in health and illness. We can't define it exactly but we have an Institute of it.
"There are things which will not be defined - fever is one of them. Besides, when a word has passed into everyday use, it is too late to lay a logical trap for its meaning and think to apprehend it by a definition." quote from Peter Mere
Latham and it is on this very site, this institute! (There is a thermometer to measure fever, Peter! To measure stress shouldn't we at least have something other than a mood ring?)
A simple of explanation of stress (this is the NORMAL one everyone has) is --- say you have to slam on the brakes to avoid an accident. Stress is activated naturally (that old
adrenial rush - the fight/flight response). After the incident is over, your body (nervous system) will quickly return to its normal state. But here's the catch. If you constantly re-play this incident over and over, tell everyone all day that you nearly were involved in a terrible crash, your nervous system "thinks" it is happening all over again and will activate that mysterious stress because it is not able to tell the difference between the reality and the story. Now you may enjoy telling stories of stressful events but remember what you are putting your body through. Studies have been done proving that blood pressure, heart rates and breathing changes occur when people work themselves into a froth retelling stories. Hey, your poor nervous doesn't KNOW its not happening right then. But your body is reacting whether you like it or not, whether you notice it or not, and over a prolonged period of time this creates a real health problem, perhaps several. Stress like this will, over time, manifest disease because you have caused systems internally to get out of whack. .
Long-term stressful situations (divorce, moving etc.) can produce a lasting low-level stress that is hard on people, can leave them overwhelmed, weaken the body's immune system and cause the merry-go-round of more problems, more stress, more problems. Stress is linked to so many diseases - high blood
pressure, heart problems up the yang-yang, diabetes, stomach and bowel disorders, headaches, and the list goes on.
Being a firm believer in "what you think about expands for you" I can see how stress, even if you are mentally saying you are fighting stress, it will take on huge proportions. Must be. They created an Institute to provide understanding stress. Here's what they say about an experiement with rats and stress.
"In his experiments,
Selye induced stress in rats in a variety of ways. He found typical and constant psychological and physical responses to the adverse situations that were imposed on the rats. In rats exposed to constant stress, he observed enlargement of the adrenal glands, gastrointestinal ulcers, and a wasting away (atrophy) of the immune (defense) system. He called these responses to stress the general adaptation (adjustment) or stress syndrome. He discovered that these processes, which were adaptive (healthy, appropriate adjustment) and normal for the organism in warding off stress, could become much like illnesses. That is, the adaptive processes, if they were excessive, could damage the body. Here then is the beginning of an understanding of why stress, really overstress, can be harmful, and why the word stress has earned such a bad name."
You could research and read about stress ad nauseum if you desire. There are a lot of people writing about stress - even MORE making a good living off of people who have stress, who expect that someone else can take it away from them or give them a pill for it. There are ridiculous statistics on how many patients a medical doctor sees that manifested physical symptoms from their attachment/involvement with stress (more than 60%!) It's painfully obvious that you don't want emotional stress in your life. It starts in your head with thoughts (thoughts - hello? Can we not manage thoughts?) and seeps in to destroy your health.
I know I sound somewhat exasperated with this topic. Admittedly I am. I had an all too serious stress "attack" a few years ago with devastating consequences medically. I know what stress can do. I sincerely want to help people avoid stress - and you CAN! I'd love to put the word "stress" on my list of words eliminated from my vocabulary. It would be in good company with the words "can't" and "fail" and "arthritis" - I never say those!
See my next installment on stress busters that will help you let go of this nasty thing if you are struggling, or to avoid it in the future altogether. If you have a stress buster that works for YOU, please put it in the comments to share with the world.
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